To Laugh, to Learn and to Love
by blogrdocI’ve always said that in my life, I learned the “big L’s” from my parents.
My father taught me to laugh. At any time, I can give him a call and in a moment, and he’ll make me laugh. He’s an Elvis impersonator, need I say more?
My mother taught me to learn. As I was growing up, she always wanted the most for me, which forced me to push myself. And she also forced me to confront my weaknesses. I remember her saying to me, “Well, maybe you really aren’t that smart!” This motivated me to work harder and understand my limits.
From both of them, I learned how to love.
When I met my wife, I felt myself change. I did things I didn’t want to do. I had only known this behavior from one other set of people in my life: my parents. Countless times, they did things they didn’t want to do for my sake.
Seeing this pattern in my life, I then knew this was someone I could love without limit. This behavior is not intuitive. It is learned. We learn how to love, I think. It really doesn’t come naturally. Motherly love, perhaps… but between husband and wife? I’m not so sure.
Anyway… there you have it, the three L’s. It’s something I think about every now and then and it just gives me a warm, fuzzy feeling.
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6 Responses to “To Laugh, to Learn and to Love”
By alik | Practice This on Apr 15, 2008 | Reply
Yet another TLA!?!? - LLL.
And I just love it ;)!
Laugh, learn, love.
alikl
By blogrdoc on Apr 15, 2008 | Reply
@Alik: ‘TLA’ is my favorite TLA :)
By Chris on Apr 16, 2008 | Reply
You are right, a love between husband and wife is not intuitive which is great because it forces you to really work hard for it and appreciate it more.
By blogrdoc on Apr 16, 2008 | Reply
@Chris: this is exactly right. When I think of everything my wife and I have gone through (and it’s a lot) - it definitely adds meaning to our relationship and makes things stronger.
These are the ‘natural laws’ (in this case, natural law of relationship) that I like to highlight on this blog. thanks for your insight!
By rx4life.info on Apr 18, 2008 | Reply
yes, we first learn to love from our parents, but it is often years later when we understand what it means. Many of the things i hated my parents for as a kid, i know see with new eyes and much respect.
Three ls i like that.
Tola
By blogrdoc on Apr 18, 2008 | Reply
@Tola,
For me, I was always embarrassed of my parents for a long time. As I matured, I set that aside.
It’s funny about the ‘three L’s’ - I didn’t sit around and try to think of something catchy…. when I reflect on my parents and what they’ve done for me, it just came to me.